5 Years Later

Tonight I was watching a DVD on folksingers when the Bros. Four sang "Try to Remember" and made me remember those times 50 years ago when Mom used to play records (you know, those big flat vinyl things we put on a record player before, 8-tracks, cassettes, & Cd's) and we listen and try to sing along. Even years later when we get together for family gatherings, and we sing together, I still think of those as good times. Even though it was a couple days ago, her 5th anniversary of her passing, I still think of that wonderful woman who introduced me to music and think of the things that would have been different if I never would have developed my love for music because of her. No joining the band playing tromone, then the Marine band where I would come home on Mondays to a young adult family evening where I met my wife, which led to four great kids (thou Jaime, you nearly broke me mentally, LOL) and that led to 19 grandchildren (#19 due soon). Thanks Mom, because of you I have most of the joys in my life.

 

Mom's 3 kids, 8 grandkids, and 17 great-grandkids in July 2012.

Happy Mother's Day Mom. Just wanted let you know that I still think of you and miss you alot. Love David.

Cousin's Yvonne's Memories

Hi to Beverly Bree's Family from Yvonne D. Simms, with memories of her family and herself and me. When we were very young, I would visit Aunt Vi (note: Violet, Bev's mother), Uncle Harold, Beverly, Hal Jr., Donald and later Tommy as he was younger. I was always treated so well and had fun. We would wake up early and Aunt Vi would tell us it was too cold to get up. So we would then ask each other riddles like, "There's something in this room that's green." I was always so impressed that Aunt Vi would iron their sheets and pillow cases with a mangle iron and board. She would also peel the tomatoes that they ate.

We had many fun times together. When we were little, we would go to Grandma Elson's (note: Tuttle & Bertha Elson) house, and get on the roof and pick figs, which we were strictly forbidden to do. We'd pay with the chips and make parades on the carpet with Grandma's ceramic animals. That was FUN!

When we were 18 and 19, Bev and I lived in Hollywood and a women's apartment house. We would go to "Coffee Dan's" and just watch the people walk by. There were always strange sights to see. We also saw actors and actresses.

At one point, we went to Catalina and met a young man named Capy who was very taken with Bev. He was very handsome and had a boat. Catalina was fun and we biked and went to the ballroom to dance. After that trip I had the only really good tan I ever had.

Bev, Mike (your dad), a friend of Mike's and I went to Ciro's where we saw Jose Greco and his dance troupe. Ciro's was a very popular place and Jose Greco was Famous. He had been in movies, and they dance the flamenco.

I worked for the telephone company and Bev worked for the insurance company. I was very shy, while Bev was outgoing and had many friends. She always was a good hostess when I came and visited her. She really enjoyed her place in Huntington Beach, and her job with the California Lottery.

Bev loved the September song. I believe she was born in September. (note: BD is 9/27/33).

She and her family were and are very good people.

(Above sent to David via her sister Vicky Johnson. Edited and notes added by David.)

My Earliest Music Lessons

Tonight I was roaming the Internet, when I came across the above video of my Mom's favorite group, The Limeliters. Growing up I listened to The Limeliters, The Kingston Trio, Harry Belefonte, and Peter, Paul and Mary. Mom loved to play their LP records and sing along with them. The first record bought for us kids was The Limeliters "Through Children's Eyes." Even watching television, we watch the show Hootenanny, and saw lots of our favorite groups performing on the show. I remember singing along to many of those songs. I even remember trying out for a talent show when I was in the 4th grade singing "Puff the Magic Dragon." The first instrument I tried playing was mom's guitar. Because of mom's love of that music, I think it help me develop a love for music. I enjoy playing my guitar, along with my trombone. And it's just not folk, I enjoy Jazz, Classical, and Pop. The above song "Have Some Madeira M'dear" was probably my mom's favorite song of all time. I was lucky to see the Limeliters preform that song live three times. Once in 1974 in Pasadena during a reunion tour with Glenn Yarbourgh, again in 1986 at the Marin County Fair with Red Grammer, and then in about 2001 in Smith River, CA. When I listen to this song and close my eyes, I can almost see mom singing along with Lou and all of us having a good laugh.

The Rat Pack Is Disappearing

Mom's brother Harold, passed away in his sleep on Monday, March 30, 2009. He was mom's older brother and died at the age of 79. At the 2002 family reunion at Lake Tahoe a picture of the siblings was taken and they were donned the Rat Pack, with Harold being Frank (Sinatra), Mom being Angie (Dickinson), Donold being Dean (Martin) and Tom being Sammy (Davis, Jr.). Tom was always considered the black sheep of the family so Sammy fitted well.
Mom's family has always been close. I remember traveling on holidays to grandma's house and being there with all my cousins and uncles and aunts. We could always count on being together at Thanksgiving, Christmas, and usually Memorial Day. With Grandpa, (Mom's dad), being a butcher, we always had a food spread that was great. Grandma and my aunts were all good cooks and we all got stuffed just like a turkey at Thanksgiving. Even though everyone got together to catch up on with family, everyone always looked forward to Grandpa's poker game that happened in the evening. Even us kids couldn't wait till we were old enough to join in the game.
As with every family, as children grew up and got married, and with Grandma & Grandpa passing away, the family gatherings ended. Then in 2000, Mom and her brothers decided that the Elson Clan needed to start having a family reunion every two years. The first one was held in Las Vegas, with the second held at Lake Tahoe in 2002. I missed 2000 due to not having enough seniority to get the time off. The 2002 reunion happened during my high school 30 year class reunion that I was already committed to go to play with a band reunion. I made sure that we attended the 2004 family reunion in Hawaii, and we help celebrate Harold's and Mickey's 50 anniversary. It was also the first time I saw a lot of my cousins since I got married in 1976. Even with the rain soaking us during our Luau, eveyone still had a great time.
In 2006, Mom, Terrie, Mike (sister & brother)and myself planned the San Diego Reunion. It was great of course and I got to design the reunion T-shirt with every one's name on the back. With all the attractions, everyone was very busy. It was also the year that Mom had her whole family with her. Not only did she have her brothers, but her three children with their spouses, all her grandchildren with spouses or fiancee, and all her living great grandchildren. It was also the last time the Rat Pack got a group picture together (that I know of).
This last August, 2008, we had the lastest reunion. It was held at Lake Tahoe again and we had a great time. Harold was not feeling very good and he spent a lot of time down stairs during the informal party and then for the reunion picnic he stayed at the condo as he just wasn't up for it. We took the traditional pictures of family including the whole Elson Clan picture but we missed having Harold there.
I hope the next generation, The Cousins as we are known, will still keep having reunions as it would be a great tributed to our Grandparents (Harold and Violet), as well as to the Rat Pack.

Houseboat Trip

Going through some of Mom's pictures I ran across this one of Dad and Mom piloting the houseboat on Lake Shasta back in 1966 or 1967. This was our first deluxe vacation where we didn't sleep in a tent. This brought back memories of fishing and motoring around on the lake. I remember us finding a cove that was secluded and us jumping off the houseboat and swimming. My Dad, brother and I making a trip in the towed behind boat up to the end of the Sacramento River till we couldn't go any further due to the rocks, and catching our limit of rainbow trout. I recall traveling back to the houseboat and having my hand in the water and feeling how cold the river water was and when we cross the thermo-plane that was the lake as the temperature was at least 10-15 degrees warmer. There was the time Mom and Dad decided they needed a break from us kids and took the boat to go to a restaurant for dinner after the houseboat was tied up. Us kids got scared to death when we heard something going through the brush (turned out to be a doe) and then having a starving hunting dog show up at the boat. When Mom and Dad got back, the next morning we took the dog to a close by marina and left it with someone to call the animal shelter. I got to drive the boat and remember well when we were out in the middle of the lake and a thunderstorm hit us and the wind and waves giving us a scare. I also recall that we worked like the dickens cleaning the houseboat up as Mom and Dad had put down a cleaning fee of several hundred dollars and they were determined to get it back. The guy who rented out the boat said it was cleaner than he had ever seen it and he wasn't going to have to do any work getting it ready for the next renter except empty the waste tanks. We got our cleaning fee back. I hope my kids have good memories of things we did together like I do of Mom and Dad.

Getting Ready for Memorial

Well, it's getting closer to Saturday, when we'll have the Memorial Service for Mom. I finished up my eulogy today and had my sister and wife proof read it. We then scaned some pictures for a slideshow we will have at the house with alot of her pictures with music. Here is just a few of the pictures from her life that will be in the show.

Hope you can make it and after the services, I'll start to publish the eulogy in serveral parts. Also the mortuary put a slide show together for the services and you can see it at www.mem.com then type in Beverly Bree. Hope to see you on Saturday.

Mom Will Never Be Gone

About 4:30 PM at the start of Halloween Night, I received a phone call from my sister telling me that my Mom was gone. Mom had Breast Cancer. Mom got it 3 years ago and started having treatments of chemo and radiation. We thought she had it beat. She went 2 years with no sign of the disease, but it wasn't gone, just hiding. At our Bi yearly family reunion, mom started not feeling well. Well some test and we found out that that the cancer came back with a vengeance. It attacked her lungs, bones, and liver. Mom chose the option to fight. She knew that she would never be cured from the disease, but she was not going to lie down either. She started taking chemo again, even knowing how it made her feel weak and the pain it caused her physically. She hated needles. (Now I know where I got my aversion to needles from.) And she wouldn't let her weakness stop her from doing what she wanted to do. The last trip she made before she pasted, was to Portland to go to the wedding of a friends daughter that she help raised. Mom considered Erica a granddaughter, and she was not going to miss her wedding. The trip cost her two days in the hospital in Portland before she was well enough to travel home. Spending those days at the hospital at her bedside, I never heard her regret her going on the trip. She admitted that it probably was not the best idea, but if she had to make the choice again, it would have been the same.

On Friday 31 October 2008, while Mom was asleep in front of the television, she left else for greener pastures. She may be physically gone, but she will always be with us. We think of her with everyplace we look, because everything brings back a memory of her. As long as she is in our memories and we never forget her, Mom will always be with us and never really will be gone.

David